10 Quick Tips to Boost Your
Happiness
By Donald B. Ardell, Ph.D.
Many of us think of happiness as a luxury, but in reality it is essential
to health - beyond the margins of simply not being sick.
In the immortal
preamble to the Declaration of Independence, Thomas Jefferson wrote:
"We hold these truths to be self evident: that all men are
created equal; that they are endowed with certain unalienable rights;
that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness."
These glorious
words actually pointed the way for future Americans to embrace wellness
by being responsible, taking control of their lives and focusing
upon optimal outcomes, not merely a coping existence. This was an
early mind/body perception of well-being -- and if thatâs
not wellness, what is?
When I think
of that immortal sentence, I automatically feel a little happier
and a little healthier. So take a deep breath, smile and ponder
Jefferson's phrase yourself. Then take these 10 simple steps to
add a little happiness and health to your life:
1.
Exercise more
Besides whatever
else you do for exercise, take the stairs when possible, walk briskly
or jog in place naked! Any one or a variation of these activities
done for a total of 30 minutes daily could make you happier -- especially
the latter!
By the way,
the latest research suggests that it is a less familiar neuromodulator
called norepinephrine, not endorphins, that provides that natural
"feel good" sensation with exercise. Whatever it is, enjoy
it!
2.
Rub somebody the right way
Arrange for
a massage at least once a week. A 30-minute massage is not very
expensive and you can always do a trade. (This is one case where
giving can be as good as receiving.) A good massage is a definite
happiness booster.
3.
Take charge of your brain! Organize your thoughts in positive ways
Thinking this way will help you make the best of whatever occurs
throughout the day. It will add to your happiness and reduce any
tendency to flee into misery.
4.
Act childish...when nobody is looking
Do something you enjoyed as a kid that you have not done for years
or decades. You donât always have to be dignified, mature,
adult and serious -- especially when you are alone or with another
playful adult. Dress up in something wacky, blow bubbles, throw
a theatrical temper tantrum, etc. Anything that will give you a
good laugh.
5.
Instead of blessings, count your chuckles!
Discover if
you are fit for humor by seeing if you can record at least 10 good
laughs at least one day out of seven. Laughs count a lot toward
the pursut of happiness. Mirthful times will lower your blood pressure,
stress level and worry index and raise your energy, spirits and
optimism. Laughter and assorted pleasures strengthen your immune
system, metabolize bad vibes and serve in 1001 ways to make your
everyday life richer and fuller.
6.
Celebrate differences
Work at appreciating
the diversity of appearances, styles, religions, politics, values
and opinions at variance with your own. This is one of the most
effective ways to eliminate negative stressors.
We are all inclined
to make subtle judgments and even efforts to change people to think
or be more like ourselves. Yet itâs almost never worth the
grief. Live your own life and wish others well in trying to do the
same. A high tolerance level will definitely make you happier.
7.
Discover the meaning of life!
Well, at least
decide to go on a lifelong quest to gather insights about why youâre
here and what itâs all about. Rely primarily upon the rich
database of your own life experiences, observations and reflections.
As new possibilities suggest themselves over time, stay open to
readjustments to ideas about your life purpose and ways of finding
meaning. But please donât try to persuade others to accept
your interpretation -- itâs a personal thing.
8.
Be of service, for your sake
Frankl, Maslow,
Yalom and dozens of other psychiatrists, existentialists and assorted
scholars urged engagement for mental health and happiness. In your
own fashion, reach out and make a difference in someone else's life
by supporting a cause, helping the needy, working with a kid --
anything.
9.
Pick a hero
In fact, look
for lots of heroes -- people you can admire and even emulate, in
some ways. It's not a good idea to adopt a single hero, for everyone
has strengths and weaknesses. Think of traits you value and the
people who manage those qualities with dignity, panache and flair.
When you want to function at your best, think of your hero. How
would he or she deal with this? Then do your own version, with the
role model (hero) in mind.
10.
Seek inspiration
Look for it
in the familiar. Start with the familiar scenery, sounds, aromas
and multiple blessings you already enjoy. Recall Gilda Radnor's
needlepoint message revealed in Gene Wilder's book "Funny About
Love": "Contentment is not the achieving of what you want
but the realization of what you already have."
Happiness follows
good works. Live a healthy lifestyle and do good work and I think
your happiness will be secured -- and Thomas Jefferson will be proud
of you.
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